It has been a whirlwind of awkward situations with different types of people I have met in a week’s span. Most situations were with men who were obviously predictable with their cheesy pick-up lines that nearly choked me to death on my seat while in the pre-departure area. 😛 (Please don’t mess with a young gal especially when she’s busy writing on her journal)
(Read about my general rule in Avoiding Unwanted Male Attention)
The scenario: I was on the far side of the bench, minding my own business, when suddenly a man (mid-20s) sat beside me. The first few minutes were in silence. The tall, fair-skinned man started to converse with me. “What are you doing?” He said in tagalog. I just kept quiet (following the general rule of what traditional parents would say – “Don’t talk to strangers”). The man again took his time and asked another question: “Hi Miss, could you help me with this ticket?” The relaxed and somehow annoyed me helped him with his problem. After a few minutes, surprisingly, the man asked me for my number and if I am free “tonight.” 😯
If you were in a situation like this, here are some of my “tested and proven” ways to avoid strangers:
Do Something to Keep You Busy
People that are observing will not bother to approach you for a question because you are doing something – and you look busy. They will tend to think twice and simply walk away. They really don’t want to disturb you. Now, you are safe from unknown men and women coming towards you.
Don’t Entertain if You Don’t Want to
Shutting up is one way of silently saying “Back off. I don’t want to talk to you.” Some people will get this instantly and will leave you alone and some will definitely push your buttons. It’s in your judgment if you want to talk or not but this rule covers it.
(Read about a similar post in Dealing with Strangers)
Never Disclose Your Real Name
I use an alias in creepy settings. The reason for this is simple – to avoid being too personal on people you barely know. I know you’ll find this weird but I will tell them my real name if in case we’ll be friends. Haha
Tell Them About Your Jealous Boyfriend
This is my favorite. I don’t have a boyfriend (yet), but I ALWAYS say that I have one jealous-type. This would usually scare men away and this is how I avoid strangers, basically. Majority of the men I have encountered are looking for single girls. That just bought me a ticket to freedom from those I am not interested with. 😈
(Read about a similar strategy I did with The Guy Named Nathan)
Make an Excuse And Leave
If all else fails, just use your creative brain to make a perfectly good excuse and leave them. One acceptable excuse is “Sorry, I need to make a very important call.” Grab your things and go. Clean and simple.
So, what followed the scenario? The moment the man asked me if I was free on that night, I told him that I have to ask my boyfriend if we have plans in the evening. I then made an excuse that I need to go to the restroom and I left him there. I transferred to another vacant seat at the back and put on my scarf to somehow alter my identity a little bit. 🙂
There are more than 6 billion people in the world and roughly 0.000005% of them are the ones whom you personally know. The remaining 99.999995% are all strangers.
That’s it! I hope you’ll find this useful (especially to female solo travelers).