Day 87: Three Reasons Why Traveling Solo Is Not The Best Option

Today, I would have ran over by a car because I was not looking from my side while crossing the street. Gladly, God spared my life. I spent the whole day with a special friend (a dear friend) that is really close to my heart, someone whom I know will always be there for me no matter what. Someone who simply understands me… and yes, someone who is such a blessing to me. For without him – without him grabbing me from my hand and saying “Look out,” I don’t know whether I’d be alive or not right now. (You know who you are.)

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Based on what just happened to me earlier, there are simple reasons why solo traveling is not always the “best” option:

#1 No one is watching your back.

Don’t get me wrong, traveling solo is like being free and “alive” for a brief moment. – but would it matter if being free and alive means putting yourself at risk for any danger? It’s definitely a great idea to have someone to foresee anything that may or may not come your way.

#2 No one is there to tell you what to do.

Unlike others, I don’t know how to set up a tent. I don’t know if I am following the map correctly. I don’t know how to react to different circumstances that are pretty much unknown for me. I don’t know a lot of things. I mean, people are not really perfect that’s why there’s the existence of “relationships.” – Romantically or Platonically. It is somehow better to hear someone tell you that you forgot to attach the bolts to the chassis or what nots. Right?

and lastly…

#3 No one is there to encourage you to move forward.

Yes, solo traveling is great and all – heck, it’s such a heart-pounding feeling. But would it hurt to actually share your success with someone? Would it hurt to have a “real” person pat your back and say “Congrats! You just finished your goal! What’s next?” Someone who will just give you a thumbs up and help you step up to another level. Someone to support you.

What I am saying is… everything happened so fast and I was not able to process things up until we heard mass this afternoon. Sometimes, God is just looking out for us. So yeah, He sends a fantastic friend to stay by your side, let you watch a great movie (that makes you cry), have the best iced coffee on a hot day plus a delicious ube brasos de mercedes topped off with an order of Ted’s Original Lapaz Batchoy. He sends a friend that is too precious for me to lose.

I travel solo to learn more about myself and my capabilities – to train myself to be independent and to live my life fully. I guess I just learned that somehow… even if things are turning out fine, it’s always preferrable not to be “alone.” – Sorry for an emotional post, though. 🙂

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  1. relate. when we went to Ayutthaya, i was wondering how my husband could just look at the map once and he’d know where to go… he kept reminding me which side to turn to as Thailand is a right-hand drive country, it was confusing. Despite your faith in yourself that you can do things on your own, something happens that making you realize, you really needed help… ;-/

  2. That’s scary. Thanks for sharing ms apol. I’ll keep this in mind. No map, nor any other “techy gadget” could replace an Actual Person by your side 🙂 hahaha good thing you have your husband with you.

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